Life And Stages
Every human being at the right age craves for a partner and searches for that soul mate. When two people meet and begin a relationship, they both work towards taking it forward to that step where they bind themselves together in holy matrimony and promise to be with each other for the entire life time.
With marriage comes the romantic phase of life which involves discovering each other, getting to know each other intimately and setting up a new home and a new life together. Life at this stage is at its best because the couple is dreaming and charting their course of life, setting goals, making plans for themselves. Out of the romantic interlude evolves the next phase where the couple naturally get thrilled to become parents. The next year or so is spent in learning all about being parents, about pregnancy, preparing for the child birth as well as getting ready to looking after the child.
The arrival of the child and children marks another phase that the parents graduate into in life. The initial one or two years are very exciting having to watch your children growing up and looking after them. Parents are eagerly waiting to see and celebrate each milestone that the child reaches when he learns to sit up, walk and when he gets is first tooth.
Soon the demands of having to meet the financial needs of the growing family and making ends meet becomes the priority along with the need to save money for one’s own retirement as well as for the education of the children and the parents get busy concentrating on furthering their careers as well as managing home. They have little time for themselves.
Soon the children grow up and are into a teen which is when the parent’s worst and most traumatic period starts. The period from the teens until such time that the children settle down completing education and taking up a career is the most traumatic period for the parents and difficult to manage. When the children are stepping in to the external world, learning to deal with the new found freedom and discovering their own identity, they do tend to stray and make mistakes which are quite natural. If the children get side tracked from studies and get into unwanted activities such as smoking, drinking and doing the drugs etc, it can be traumatic for the kids as well as the parents. To a large extent the atmosphere that is prevalent at home influences the children. In case of homes where the emotional ties between the family members is very high and the parents spend a lot of time with children, the children tend to grow up responsibly. However despite best efforts from the parents to create the right atmosphere, there can be some basic nature or soul qualities of the child that makes him vulnerable to peer pressure and fall prey to bad habits.
In such cases the parents go through a lot of emotional struggle and agony too. Along with suffering emotionally they will end up spending quite a lot of money too. The struggle continues for a while until the child makes repeated mistakes and finally heads back home to put is life in order. It is very important for all parents at this stage to remember that their duty is to stand by and give unconditional support to their child and not to be critical or judgemental about the child’s attitudes. Parents are the only shelter that the child has. If you look at how God forgives all his children be they sinners or killers and nobody ever goes unpardoned, how can we humans expect to be otherwise? Unconditional love can bring back any child however far he has strayed away from home.
Finally after a decade and a half, the parents enter yet another stage in life, when they suddenly find that the children have left home one by one to join the university. The reality is that they are not going to come back home and will make their own homes and build their future. Now the couple is left alone by themselves.
The best romantic period is here once again in the couple’s life. They can now make up for the lost time and live a fulfilling life and build on their friendship and companionship. At this stage the outlook towards the rest of the life too changes. Now each other’s company and relationship becomes more important. To rediscover the shades of love, the couple may need some help for both of them are in their menopausal stage. While the woman could go through menopausal symptoms and seek emotional support from the husband, the husband is likely to go through a drop in the production of testosterone hormone leading to a dip in sexual drive. Besides they also find themselves unable to achieve or sustain erection. This is when a doctors prescription for Viagra comes in handy. It is quite easy to order Viagra online and get the tablets delivered home. Viagra helps the man get over the erectile dysfunction and helps resume normal physical relationship.
Though the children have left home and are independent, does not mean that the duties as parents are over. The parents continue to support children by helping them take the right decisions in life and getting alone as friends.
In all the years of growing up and of having grown up, children as well as adults do make mistakes and relationships are always exposed to vulnerability. What helps mend and build relationships is the attitude of unconditional love that works in every case.